How To Deal With Tragedy
I just chuckled to myself. Reminiscing back to my 'easy' childhood I would've laughed at you if you told me I'd be writing about dealing with tragedy. But how can we deal with tragedy in our lives?
Understand That Tragedy Comes In Different Levels
Perception is key. To know that we control our thoughts, controlling our perception of how we see tragedy can help relieve the sadness. It's not easy, but looking for the 'good' in the hardest of times can help drag you through the sadness. My story to some may be shocking. Losing my Dad to suicide, nearly losing my Mum to alcoholism, my brother and his accident... But to others... It might seem like a walk in the park.
Someone Is Dealing With Worse Than You
Even though these tragic moments hurt, they could've been a lot worse. When you're going through tragedy, ask yourself "how much worse could this have been"? My Mum survived, my brother survived. I'm grateful.
Someone Is Dealing With Worse Than YouWhen my brother had his accident it sucked. Why has this happened? But then when I tried to look for the 'good' it quickly made me realise how grateful I was that he was still alive. I remember crying down the phone to my wife when his chances of survival were rapidly declining and saying "I just want him to open his eyes and see me". Now, even though the whole situation still sucks... we're cracking jokes and I feel like I haven't lost my brother. The situation could've been a lot worse. In fact I know a lot of people out there weren't as lucky as we were. When you're going through tragedy, ask yourself "how much worse could this have been"? With everything I've been through, I know that it still could've been worse. My Mum survived, my brother survived. I'm grateful. And being grateful will help you remember what you've got. Someone out there is dealing with worse than you, you're lucky and have huge abundance in your life, you just need to remember it.
Tragedy Isn't Permanent
My Dad killed himself over 8 years ago now. When it happened, I struggled to deal with it. I couldn't get him out of my head, I kept seeing him everywhere I went, I questioned why he did it over and over again and I never thought the pain would ease. But time is a healer. There's still not a day that goes by where I don't think about him being here, being a Grandad now and giving me advice in life. But looking back it's made me realise that pain inflicted from tragedy isn't permanent. It gets easier. When you're in the moment, it's hard to feel like it's going to get any easier. But it will. I know - This article is messy. I just let it flow and I'm sure it doesn't read as well as it could. But I wanted to share this with you. For more about me, my story and for more content visit my blog here.